Powerful Parenting That Will Make Your Teen Soar

All You Need To Know About Powerful Parenting

We all have tried numerous teenage parenting tips. Some do work sometimes times but none of these parenting strategies is foolproof. Teenager’s relationship with their parents is very delicate at this stage. You need some Powerful Parenting Approach to make your teen soar high in this complex world.

And what is different in today’s world? I call today’s world the “VUCA” world.

So what is the “VUCA” world? I will come to that in a little bit. But what is essential to understand is that this makes parenting all the more difficult and opens up an entire gamut of interpretations.

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The Zillennial Generation

Being a parent of a “Millennial” or a “Zillennial” ( aka Gen Z) keeps you always on tenterhooks. We are constantly judging our ability to bring up our children. Am I doing the so-called “Positive Parenting?” Am I too strict with my teenager or too lenient? Am I the liberal parent or a conservative, interfering parent?

Will I stress my child, or am I the friend he or she needs? A sea of thoughts come and go through our minds & we are constantly changing our parenting strategies to get across to our kids. You want to show your teenager that you care but at the same time, you want to discipline them.

Believe me, if the teenage life is tough, the parent life is tougher.

Walk the Talk

Children are like sponges, they absorb both good things & bad things from us first & then the environment. The process of Parenting has made us more conscious of our actions & reactions both as we are being “watched”. 

And in the process, we have also learned a few good habits. Phone-distancing, minding our Ps & Qs & not being judgemental are few of those. And most importantly in our conversations with our teenage daughters, we got to know what words are not be used in public.

This is just the beginning .. read on for more.

Realize your passion & live it

My elder daughter taught me this important lesson and she was only 5 then. I quote “ Mom I forget everything when I dance”. These were her words when she used to go for her Bollywood dance classes in our neighborhood.

Today she is 15 & continues to be as passionate for dance as she was then. And the same passion drives her whether it is Bharatnatyam or Hip-hop Tik-Tok videos. After a hectic day at school, she is still pursuing her online dance classes with her favourite choreographer from India, which some times run till late at night.

When I see her enthusiastically pursuing her passion, I get encouraged to follow her footsteps.

Don’t forget your roots

Our family moved to Singapore one year back. And we all had a completely new environment to adjust too, especially the girls.

New school, new friends, new infrastructure & a new way of living. So we recently asked our 12-year-old daughter, if she would like to go back to India? After experiencing this new country & what it had to offer, we had a different answer in mind.

Her words were “I Like Singapore but I Love India- how can you even ask that question”. My learning – “No matter how far life may take us, it’s important to be grounded & remember your roots”

And after one year, whenever I have the usual mommy talk with them, I am relieved that the values and culture they grew up with is still intact. And hopefully, they will think twice before going a different path.

Importance of a strong foundation:

During our move to Singapore, a major milestone was school admissions for our girls.

They were moving from a conventional CBSE school to an IB school with an entirely different curriculum. We took this plunge after much deliberation & numerous words of caution.

But imagine my anxiety when the only question my teenage daughter had was this. Will I be allowed to colour my hair? Fast forward to four months later, my daughter shares with me that she is thankful for her schooling foundation. The importance of perseverance she learned in India is helping her now despite the high-school distractions.

It is tough to question the teens of today directly. Hence we need to constantly keep our dialogue on with them and interpret their answers to gauge our parenting efficacy.

Importance of Trust in any relationship:

We have a common Netflix account for the family. This is shared with our daughters & they have open access to all the content. My elder daughter uses her discretion as she is in her mid-teens. But the younger one is very clear. She will only watch the content which she is authorized to.

We don’t need to be the policemen when the kids are conscientious. We just need to calibrate on what is “Right” and when.

Building Trust in your teens starts with us. Our approach has always been to be open with our teen daughters and let them participate in the decision making process where it involves them. And this gives them the confidence that we trust them.

The Perfect Parenting Formula

Reading this you may feel that we have a perfect parenting formula. This is not the case & will never be. There are days when I am unable to understand teenage behaviour & their mood swings.

We also have our share of conflicts & arguments which take us back to the drawing board. The basics are discussed & debated. We may agree to disagree in some cases.

But the important thing is that the open dialogue between the parents & the Zillennials should never stop. Communication is foundational in this day and age. Not only it is desired but it is also the lubricant in making this relationship crank in the right manner.

I truly believe in Andy Smithson’s saying “ The sign of great parenting is not the child’s behavior. The sign of truly great parenting is the parent’s behavior”.  

And this starts by listening to our kids & learning from them. 

All You Need To Know About Powerful Parenting is this - Listen to What Your Kids Are Teaching You!

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